I am not a racist, not even a little bit. But I know several people who are, to some extent. I also see intolerance grow in our society, stigmatizing and generalizing on entire groups of people.
So this will be self forgiveness and self correction placing myself in the shoes of the racist.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to stigmatize entire groups of people, such as “muslism” or people with a middle eastern appearance. Because of the examples I see on the news of extremism, and think that they are all like that.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think all middle eastern people are the same, one group – not realizing they are as diverse as “white people” are. They have differences of religious views, they have different cultural habbits depending on where they live, different opinions, personalities. I realize that even within my own family or community are many differences, and “middle eastern” people have these differences as well.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge my own race, or culture, as superior – not realizing how our own culture is part of the destructive system on earth that does not do what is best for all, and helps in creating extremism through deprivation, a history of exploitation, and abuse. Where I do not realize how abuse, poverty, deprivation and exploitation, are in fact causes of extremism, and how we have contributed to this and even caused these situations in the past.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not have realized that stigmatization is done because I am afraid, and not see that it is not constructive and in fact not a solution to the problems in this world.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think all middle eastern people are extremists, which is in fact proven in statistics to not be true.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think that all middle eastern men beat their wives.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize how many white man beat their wives and treat them as inferior. Not seeing the culture I live in objectifies woman as sexual objects, and still often treats them as second class citizens. (there is much partner violence with white people, I worked some time for school at the police, and got to see the files. I was amazed on the amount of partner violence within my own community).
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to see white people as superior to middle eastern looking people, thinking that they have superior intellect, culture, moral etc… not realizing how “white people” and “middle eastern people”, are both programs of the culture, shaped by circumstances and situations. In their place, I would have been them, shaped just like them.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that hate and blame is not the solution to the problems in this world that I fear, and that I actually contribute to the problems by stigmatizing. And that I haven’t learned a lesson from the past, for example hitler.
I forgive myself that I havent accepted and allowed myself to realize that if I would be born in a middle eastern persons life, I would have been similar or just like them. And I would not want others to stigmatize me or put all blame on me.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think that all foreigners coming to my country are leeches who are here to kill us off, or convert us and take us over.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not have realized many refugees come here because they want a better life, a better future, escaping from situations of war and conflict, poverty and deprivation. And that in their place, I would have done the same.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge an entire group of people, based on the bad examples I see in the media. Not realizing that media is often politically colored, and gives me a certain image about the world or groups of people to shape my opinion. Not realizing that ‘the bad apples’ stick out, good people don’t. media is all about sensation. And that I stigmatize an entire group based on the bad apples I see.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not look at y own patterns of abuse, such as my frustrations, my anger, jealousy, fear, spite, egoism etc… and rather judge and blame others, even entire groups of people. Not realizing how I am also contributing to the problems in this system of inequality.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think that white people have better brains, while in fact this is not true, and intelligence is programmed and taught depending on where you grew up.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge people as inferior based on my believes about their brain capacity.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to desire to feel better than another human being, because I feel insecure and am afraid, and want to have something to defend and be part of, to feel better about myself and my life, as if I am fighting evil, and because it gives me an ego boost.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to realize that poverty and war creates crime.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to realize that our system contributes to poverty and war, the very system that I support.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be blind for the abuse within my own culture.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to form my opinions on other groups of people based on very limited information, not doing any proper research or consulting scientific statistics, not even looking at why it is created and what would be best to stop it. All I do is judge and blame, I don’t even care about a solution for them. I don’t even care about working on a solution. Because I take this stand because of my emotions, and they control me as a slave.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize how America has used the middle east for their own gains and profit, and how they have started wars because they thought the middle east possess nuclear weapons, which they themselves possess as well. And that they killed university professors for this, because they wanted to eradicate the minds of the middle east and bomb them to the stone age, so that they cannot form an equal powerful force as America.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to draw conclusions based on limited information, not realizing the manipulation because of world leaders, that may seem like an entire group of people is to blame, but actually they can be involved as well. And I forgive myself that I have not even considered this.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to let this system be run by power hungry people that do not do what is best for all.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want to kill muslims, thinking they are the cause of all problems in this world. Not realizing these problems have always existed, everywhere: Christians, muslims, dictatorships etc… that is is who we are, that has to change. Muslim, Christian, hate, extremism etc… are simply outflows of a situation that we have created.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to vote for someone just because I think they are cool, without doing any proper research and in actually see if what they stand for is best.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think I know it all, but in fact I know very very little.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think I know it all, even without doing any research. Thinking, in my ego, that I know it all, while others have to do extensive research to lay out certain patterns. But that I as superior, am always right and know it anyway.
When and as I notice judgments come up when I see a middle eastern person, I stop and breath, and realize that these judgments come up because of what we have heard and seen about them. It does not mean I should follow these judgments and make them my own. People forget that they have a choice in this, and when you simply act on your programming or thoughts, you are in fact not choosing, you are following. Even when these thoughts come up, you do not require to give them power. Use common sense, see what is best for all.
I commit myself to stand for a world that is best for all, where all people can live together within being deprived or living in conflict and war which leads to situations of crime and inequality.
When and as I notice I stigmatize other groups of people; I stop and do not follow these thoughts. I realize they are as diverse as others, and that a group of identical individuals do not exist. “the muslim”, “the middle easterner” etc… do not exist. There are a lot of varieties. I realize that I stigmatize because of my fears and ego, and that this is not solution and not best for all.
I commit myself to stand for a solution for all people, as equals, so that no one has to grow up in a culture that puts profit or religion on top. So that all people have an equal starting point in this life, and are given equal opportunities, and do not have to grow up in fear or anger. I realize how our childhood and culture shapes us, and that currently, it shapes us to become abusers and inconsiderate. We let the media run wild, not realizing the devastating effects it has on less or non-educated people, who swallow whatever the media tells them.
I commite myself to stand for a world that provides people with tools for self-insight, self-teaching, self-honesty, to be able to never again allow ourselves to go into patterns of blame and hate, repeated through the past which always led to war and abuse. To stand for a world where people are brought up with care, and true intelligence, as life intelligence, placing ourselves in the shoes of another and seeing what has to be done to stop a situation.
Bad people are created, not born. Always ask yourself why a situation got there in the first place.
Do not allow the shallow judgments to control you. Having an unsupported opinion is abusive and extremely limiting. Educate yourself, use common sense.
For illustrative purpose, a quote from an Islamic person:
“islam gives the women more rights than a man, if a husband misstreat his wife, if he torture her, if he even just go to bed and she is …sad because of him, the doors to heaven are closed for him, that’s how many rights the wife in my religion has, she can say no to her husband, and he has no right to act against her will, if he ask her to do something that she doesn’t agree with, she has full right to say no, she has full right to agree if she want to marry him or divorce him, and she has the right to take her own responsibilities, and it is the same thing for the husband, they both have to take care of each other, and they both have equal right, young girls are not made to marry older guys, and as far as i know it is not in any religion, but if she says yes, and it’s her free will, then you are the monster who gonna stop her”
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