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Day 43 – ‘You have to be happy to be beautiful’ Part 1

Day 43 – ‘You have to be happy to be beautiful’ Part 1

Quoted from wealthy A-list actress and model Julia Roberts. she’s appeared in more than 40 movies, is reported to have earned up to $20 million for some of them. She is also the face (and part creator) of a new perfume called La vie est Belle (Lancôme) and many people consider her to be a pretty woman. And for that, she has her happy spirit to thank, she claims. Her  own happy state of mind is one of her beauty tips.

‘I think optimism and having a sense of humour definitely help, but happiness is something you cultivate. Once you find it, that’s the key to looking beautiful. That, Lancôme eye cream and kissing!’

Ofcourse she had to name a product with it as well. The cash gotta come from somewhere right? So by that note, it means that people struggling in this world, will have a hard time being beautiful. I think it is the least thing on their mind anyway. If you can barely make enough money to feed your children, your not gonna worry about being the hottest girl in town. Because the truth in this world is grim, and that is: that only the rich and elite thus can achieve this kind of “happy beauty”. Because money buys you happiness. Without enough money, you have no food, no home, no clean water, no nice toilet, no proper clothing etc… Still think you can be happy starving, cold and/or sick? Then I challenge you to challenge your illusion and live like that for let’s say… a month or so. Or maybe just a week or couple of days will be enough. My point is that we should make sure that all the worlds people have the opportunity to live a good life, where they can be happy and have their basic needs met and have the ability to expand on their interests. I mean forget the whole happy beauty thing, why would we want to live worrying about being beautiful all the time? It is pretty vain and empty, and will sooner or later have you crying over your older self.

In the gardens of the Rothschilds’ Villa Ephrussi, we’re led down a path with the sea sparkling on one side and serried ranks of irises (the scent’s prominent note) on the other. From a pergola hangs a huge crystal chandelier that delivers great drops of the new perfume. So similar is the scene to a Julia Roberts romcom that should Rupert Everett pop out from behind the topiary it would come as no surprise. As it is, polite party protocol is immediately abandoned as 300 guests get their wrists into the path of the descending fragrance globules.

Sounds great, but isn’t considering the context. That an elite can have such luxurious shows and parties, and that a majority suffers ,struggles to survives and even starves to death at times, is insanity. It is a deliberate created polarity within our economic system, that is as I said: deliberately created. We can spend thousands or more on luxury items, on our appearance, on our own ego… but when we are faced with the true reality of our economic system, we start to make all kinds of excuses. “it’s just the way it is and always will be” “I am to small to do anything about it” “just enjoy your life, its to short anyway” “it’s their own fault” “it’s not our problem” …. As if our economy is disconnected from the world economy and thus other (struggling) parties. It is not. And it leaves a sour taste in my mouth. On the one side we have people designing more and more stuff for those who already have a lot, and on the other side we have those struggling to survive, who are actually forgotten. Ofcourse they give to charity, but that is to feel better about their lifestyle, telling themselves that at least they are helping. It removes cognitive dissonance. But the fact is that charity is a band aid solution. Why do you think thousands of charities exist and that many problems keep rising? Because it is not really a cure! If we care about a true solution for this world, we will have to stop the CORE of the abuse. This means we will have to replace the profit driven economy, that creates so much exploitation and will never do what is good for all. It means a re-design of society towards a world that shows value to the children, that actually places the common good first instead of the individuals profit. Where all have an equal starting place, and not where one is born in starvation and another in complete luxury. It is extremely unfair today, and the only way we can fix it, is to fix it together and work on a substitute system.

La vie, currently, est belle for those who got money. But for those without, life is far from pretty.

Source:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/home/you/article-2182609/YOU-exclusive-interview-Julia-Roberts-You-happy-beautiful.html

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Posted by on August 6, 2012 in Uncategorized

 

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Day 33 – I Need Plastic Surgery! I NNEEEDDDDD it

Day 33 – I Need Plastic Surgery! I NNEEEDDDDD it

17% of the girls and about 12% of boys considers plastic surgery. This is the conclusion of an international youth study around “being unique”, from research bureau InSites Consulting.

About 91% of Belgian girls between age 15 and 25 would change something on their body if this could be done in an easy way. The numbers are also quite high with the boys (73%). Girls are the least satisfied about their stomach (43%), thighs”(33%) and breasts(22%). Boys want to improve their muscle mass (18%), stomach (17%) and penis (11%).

Eyes

Not everyone considers plastic surgery for these issues. About 15% of all Belgian youngsters would. Belgian girls are most proud about their eyes (50%), hair (28%) and breasts (21%). Only 6 % is proud of their entire body. Double the amount of boys (13%) are proud about everything, but most on their eyes (40%), hair (17%) and penis (13%).

When we compare it to international statistics, we find that in comparison to 16 countries, our country is a little lower than the average. 23% of girls and 16% of boys in those 16 countries worldwide consider plastic surgery.

Narcissists

In China and India young woman give much less importance to their stomach and breasts. The attention goes to the skin, eyes and hair. In Brazil, girls focus less on their thoughts, but more  on their breasts and stomach. Brazil jumps out of the statistics regarding plastic surgery, since almost half (47%) of young woman and 34% of young men would consider it.

The current generation of youngsters is often called the most narcissistic group ever , by scientists, says Joeri Van den Bergh, Gen Y expert of InSites Consulting and author of the book ‘Maak je merk cool’ (make your brand cool). In that sense, it is not surprising that looking good has become so important. It is not just an occurrence with youngsters, but is present in the whole of society. Think about the increased importance of product designs and wrappings, or the big attention to interior design.

Unique

57% of the Belgian Youngsters thinks themselves to be unique to very unique (which makes them not so unique after all;)). In Belgium the youngsters want to be different based on the thinks they tell others (42%), their clothing (37%) and their profession (36%). Also hobbies, the cities and countries they visited and the music they listen to are important ways for them to differentiate from others. Most of the youth does not want to be unique based on their political ideology.

Good friend

4 in 10 Belgian youngsters want to be remembered most as “a good friend”. Other qualities likes: loyalty (31%), friendliness (27%) and honesty (21%) are also considered to be desirable qualities.

The research was conducted from 4065 respondents between 15 and 25 years (Generation Y) from 16 countries, some of those: United States, Brazil, China, Netherlands and Belgium.

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I’m part of generation Y, and I must admit that for a long time I have had the same mindset. I was unsatisfied with so many things about myself. I wanted to change my hair, change my breasts, change my skin, change my feet etc… there was always something that needed to be changed. Everywhere you see media advertisements, on Tv, in the streets, even in movies. You see beautiful actors and singers, you see them get praised. On tv they tell you how to get the “perfect” hair, the “perfect skin”, stomach, ass… It is an ideal unable to be reached. You can never ever eeeveerrrr have skin without pores. Ok. Photoshop is digital. Sure you can plug up your pores with make up, make your skin seem perfect. But is that worth suffocating your skin, putting on a mask to be ‘accepted’? Accepted by who, and why would you even want to obey to someone who only accepts you when your fake and superficial an in anxiety of being rejected by others? Does not sound like the best friend to me…

Demand equals supply in our current system. And when the population can be hooked on something, it is often used and abused to make profit from it. Like what is happening with the way we look. Some play in on it, it sells, and then more and more starts to come. And people buy it, and hope it will make them “better”, “happier”. It becomes a vicious cycle which we cannot blame the corporations for. It is all of us, contributing to it. Whenever you are gossiping infront of your child about who is pretty, or who is ugly, how ridiculous this or that person is dressed etc… you are setting an example for them. An example not worth following.

Alongside the cultural commentaries which proliferate on the subject of the technological contributions to youth self-absorption come a series of other concerns, such as Harvard Psychiatrist Dr. John Ratey’s contention that the modern obsession with technology may be physically rewiring youth brains into patterns consistent with what he calls “acquired attention deficit disorder.” Dr. Elias Aboujaoude, director of Stanford University’s Impulse Control Disorders Clinic at Stanford University, agrees. In a Nov 15 interview reported in the San Francisco Chronicle, Dr. Aboujaoude comments, “The more we become used to just sound bites and tweets, the less patient we will be with more complex, more meaningful information. And I do think we might lose the ability to analyze things with any depth and nuance. Like any skill, if you don’t use it, you lose it.”

So there is another danger lurking for generation Y, a short attention span. I don’t know if this is a new item, but I can actually attest to this. I myself, have a short attention span, so I have to force myself to do certain things. I have to force myself to research, to write my school papers, to study, to investigate about our system etc… So I know very well, that “short attention span” is no excuse. We have to consider what Is necessary to do currently, and for me this is working towards the common good and standing for a new system that does what is best for all to our best ability. This includes self direction, thus: not being a slave to a programmed short attention span. And actually, once you start to push yourself, the whole attention span issue fades and you start to enjoy giving more attention and research to certain subjects. All it requires is your push.

the “use it or lose it” paradigm to which Dr. Aboujaoude refers. We will discover that human beings and brains are much more plastic than we thought. When our individual and collective success demands that we concentrate on something for longer than 4 seconds, our youth will be the first to lead us out of the tweeting age and into the next age – whatever it may be.

So let’s step up, and not be blind consumers who just go about their day seeking for the next fulfillment. If you are really feeling that empty, that you constantly have to look for attention and entertainment, then that shows you there is something wrong. Not only within society, but within ourselves, which is shaped by society.

Why desire to be special? Why even think about this in the first place? That there is even a need to start thinking about whether one is special, is showing us something.

Co-author to Jean Twenge, W Keith Campbell of the University of Georgia, states that narcissism can be beneficial when meeting new people or are auditioning for “American Idol” Campbell goes on to say that narcissism can prove to have a negative effect when it comes to close relationships, causing a breakdown.

Those that are narcissistic are the ones that will more than likely have short-lived romantic relationships, cheat on their significant others, and lack in genuine emotional warmth. They will probably display dishonesty, violent behavior, and tend to be controlling. In addition, narcissists will also lack empathy, react negatively to criticism, while considering their own needs and desires before others.

Yeah, auditioning for Americal Idol is so much more important than deep honest relationships with others ofcourse… Considering the praise idols receive.

Our future

If we do not stop, we are marking our future to become very unpleasant, which it already is for many people around the world. The more selfish we become, the less caring, the more we will ignore the abuse in this world, only work for our own gain and treat others as less than how we wish to be treated ourselves. This not only has effect on our own well being and that of others, but also on animal abuse and our environment. Because often people will not even take the time to investigate what happens to animals in slaughter houses, shutting off their mind because it makes them feel bad to realize the truth. Or buying products from companies or even becoming producers of products damaging our environment, merely for profit (personal gain!).  We must realize the impact of our current creation, of what children and thus adults we are bringing into this world. A system divided, will not  bring benefit to the whole.

We require a re-orientation towards a society that is best for all, and works on the common good. Where we do not give our children the superficial consumerist messages we give them today, and do not give them the example of judgmental behavior. This is very possible, because there are cultures in this world who already focus on this, and where young people show respect for life, help others and do their best to contribute. But this has to expand globally. So a free market,  does not contribute to the common good. It gives the ability to producers to exploit, feed selfish desires, and profit simply “because there is a demand”.

Demand does not equal production. That, is warped thinking, and destructive instead of constructive.

Entertainment in the Equal money system

In an Equal Money System, in a world where everyone’s basic living needs are always taken care of, and where everyone is provided with the amenities essential to a comfortable lifestyle, where we are all equal in quality of life, obviously the whole point of profit making and success is removed. Can entertainment exist in a world without business? Will there still be actors and musicians who want to act and make music if financial success is no longer a motivator? Of course! Because, when you remove profit and survival as a motivator, you don’t remove the human capacity for self-expression, you don’t remove the human capacity to work together as a team to produce a movie, an album, a television show. And you don’t remove the human’s capacity to produce the technology that allows us to enjoy entertainment.

In an Equal Money System, producing entertainment becomes something we choose to do because we like doing it, because it is self-expression. We like to write a story, we like to act, we like to engineer sound, we like to work with cameras and lighting, we like to work with computers and editing, we like to sing, we like to record music, we like to design televisions, we like to work with electricity, we like to program games. With the removal of the need to make profit, comes the end of entertainment as a ‘consumer product’. Entertainment will no longer be about ‘consuming a product’, it will be about enjoying a product – the product of those passionate about producing something for us to enjoy.

The infrastructure for a comprehensive entertainment system for humanity to enjoy already exists. In an Equal Money System access to the technology and resources involved in, for example making a movie, are no longer controlled to make profit, because there is no need to make profit. Thus, we are freed up to use our resources, use our infrastructure, to produce and deliver the highest quality projects possible, without budget as a limitation. The considerations involved in producing entertainment will be practical ones, where one will have work out the logistics of a project to see what is required in terms of energy, equipment, manpower, distribution, and our ability to create something will depend on who wants to get involved in the project. A team that wants to make a movie will have to fulfill the roles of writers, directors, actors, equipment operation and maintenance, editors, designers, engineers, etc. Within entertainment, the role of every person involved in producing something will be a role that someone is willing to fulfill. With an Equal Money System the need to survive through finding a way to make money no longer exists, so every single job required to be done to make a movie, or a game, or record an album, will be a job that a person chooses to do because they want to.

And who will have access to entertainment? Everyone will! Televisions, computers, movies, music — all of these things have become an ingrained part of our human experience. Everyone will have access to the highest quality televisions, the highest quality computers, the highest quality musical equipment. We will have the freedom to apply ourselves in designing the most effective technology and equipment for humanity to use, because we will no longer be limited by the need to make a profit. In an Equal Money System we are free to express ourselves, free to entertain ourselves to our fullest potential for excellence.

Aspects of entertainment that will no longer be feasible, will be anything that involves unnecessary wasting of resources, and anything that brings harm to any human, animal, or part of nature

http://equalmoney.org/wiki/Entertainment

Sources:

http://www.nieuwsblad.be/article/detail.aspx?articleid=DMF20120626_048&saved=1#reageer

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/youth-and-consequences/200911/mirror-mirror-the-wall-youth-narcissism-and-us-0

http://voices.yahoo.com/narcissism-among-youth-246135.html

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge my physical body as ugly/imperfect/not good enough, because in my life I have learned that you are judged on the way you look, and I have taken in that judgement and placed it upon myself.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to copy the behavior of that around me, even though I realize it is not good for me or for anyone else

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge my physical body because others judge it

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge others physical body

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to desire approval, and going as far as modifying my human body to get the approval

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to depend my self worth and self confidence on the way I look, and thus on the image in the mirror, on what others think about me and how they judge me

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to mutilate my body because of the judgements in my mind

 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to give superficial people power over me

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to let superficial people decide whether I am good enough or not

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to let superficial people determin what I do to my body, and when I am pretty or when I am not

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge myself as pretty or ugly

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realiza that it does not matter what another judges about my body, and that those who judge me according to the way I look are not worth to spend time with, and are no true friends or beings that care about me. If they only care about me when I look a certain way, then this care is conditional

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to adopt the beauty standards my culture has placed upon me, and carry it on and even pass it on to the next generations by living by it

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that my body is fine the way it is, and that I should honor it, as who I am, giving me the ability to live and enjoy this planet

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to take my body for granted

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not direct myself in self honesty, by stopping the judgements within my mind

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to desire to be special, more so than others

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to desire to be better than others

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to allow my ego to control me

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to go into competition with others of my gender

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize how competition and ego creates a world of abuse, where losers are punished and “winners” are praised – while the winners are often beings that do not do what is best for all, may be selfish, egoistical, and non-caring. But the system doesnt give about that, all that matters is who wins.

I commit myself to stop a system that places superficial beauty messages within society, which children see and adopt, and which people internalize. This creates a judgemental world which is not best for all, where it is all about looks and status, all fueled by money, the desire for profit.

When and as I notice negative thoughts about my body come up, I stop and breath and realize my body is fine the way it is, and I support it in its health the best way I can. I do not allow myself to go through plastic surgery simply so others could like the way I look more. I stop the judgements towards myself.

I commit myself to stop this system of exploitation that sends our children the wrong messages, teaches them to judge, and become superficial beings that only look for their own gain and happyness, and close their eyes and ears towards what is actually going on in this world.

I commit myself to stop this system which trains children to be slaves, and not think for themselves. I stand for a new system, where all can live as equals, and where none is judged for how they look, and therefor placed above another or given more chances.

 
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Posted by on June 27, 2012 in Uncategorized

 

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Day 19 – shopaholic

Day 19 – shopaholic

It started pretty young, around the age of 12-13. I used to spend all my money that I got from family members on, clothing, make-up or other things to “enhance” my appearance. I used to feel super exited about the idea of going to the stores or the mall. The day before I would feel as if I was going to an amusement park or something. The idea to make myself look so much prettier with those items made me really exited. I looked forward to it. In the shops I then would search for clothing that I found pretty and which would make me pretty, I would also buy hair coloring products, mascara’s, facial masks, hairmasks, shoes etc… A lot of shit.
What was behind this all was insecurity, and using others judgement about my appearance to judge myself. Feeling good when others found me pretty, feeling bad when they didn’t, or when I thought I looked ugly (which was most of the time). Because no matter how many compliments, I never really felt pretty.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed the beauty industry and media to influence me to such an extend that I blindly copied the judgments from it, and place them unto myself and others, being directed as a slave to buy a shitload of products and items to apprantly make me “better”, “prettier”, “more perfect”. Not realizing how brainwashed I was and how this was driven by a profit driven system that exploits and abuses life.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to take in the judgmenets from the media about appearance, and from movies and peers and others around me, and use them to judge myself and according to that feel good or bad about myself. By doing this I make myself inferior to others, and to an industry which exploits life for profit

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to derive happyness from the buying of items and products that I hope will stop the insecurity and inferiority within me, using it to try and boost my self confidence, or others attraction.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to get exited about buying things to enhancem y beauty, not realizing how this is brainwashed within my mind, fueled by our profit driven system of consumerism and vanity.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to buy things that I dont really need, simply because of a desire within me for approval of others, or because of fear within me about rejection or looking ugly and being judged

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to let others judgements determin my behavior

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to follow what the fashion industry tells me looks good on me

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to live inside of a bubble of fear, trying to eleviate this fear through consumption

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize and take a good look at how the media and fashion industry programs people to be insecure and judge themselves and others to create profit, and how this whole industry actually exploits life, brings chemicals in nature, tests on animals, has people judging each other on looks or clothing, and creates a distrorted vision about what is important in the world

When and as I notice the judgements towards myself, the fear of others judgement or desire for approval come up, I stop and breath and let it go. I do not allow myself to judge myself or take on the judgements of others. I am a living being part of planet earth and refuse to support this vain and empty culture that w ehave created that exploits life.

When and as I notice the urge to go and buy products and items to so called “enhance” my physical appearance, because others would find it beautiful, I stop and breath and realize I do not require those products. People who judge others on that are brainwashed as well as I am, and do not realize yet what they are actually participating in. I refuse to participate in this any longer, and I will also speak out about this when I have the chance, to show others what I have realized about myself. SImply sharing my realization, and what they do with it is up to them.

 
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Posted by on May 3, 2012 in Beauty and fashion

 

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Day 17 – Fear of Being Ugly

Day 17 – Fear of Being Ugly

I have been raised to put value on my physical appearance, to derive my self worth from the way I look. From a young age I have seen others do this towards themselves, others and myself. I have also seen it in various child movies (disney especially) and television and media advertisements.
As I grew older, I kept defining myself according to how others saw me, more specifically: if others thought I was pretty or not. When I thought they didn’t, I felt bad. I know… quite a sad way to live really. But how many of us are doing this? How many of us bow down to the beauty industry, to the self judgement and the gossip? How many of us judge our bodies as ugly and wrong? Does this serve us in any way? No. What it does serve is the profit driven system that feeds of it. Not best for all, not even a little bit.

The Self forgiveness shared here will not be solely attached to my own experiences, but also towards other things that people can experience.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to base my self worth and confidence on how other people perceive me, how they judge me, and wether they think I am pretty or not.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think that anothers judgements about my physical appearance means anything, that it is significant.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to  believe that anothers judgements are determinants of who I am

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to let others judgements become my own judgmenets

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to let others judgments about my physical appearance shift my emotions according to what they think about how I look

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that others judgements about physical appearance are programmed, shallow and not best for all

I forgive myself for not accepting  myself  and allowing myself simple to be who I am in  the moment, when I I look in the mirror and see wrinkles on my forehead and judge it as ‘bad/ugly/negative, ’when I think I am too short,  when I  think I don’t look thin ‘enough’, when I think I need to dye my hair to ‘cover the grey’, when I look at my breasts and think they are too small, when I think my nose is too big, when I think ‘I look older’, when I think my legs are ‘ugly’ because they have cellulite, when I think my navel is ‘ugly’.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to not love myself as who I am in each moment of breath when I go into an energetic reaction of fear about aging, and subsequent thoughts of  death, when I think I need breast implants and subsequent thoughts of fear that  Alex will leave me,  when I think I need to fix my navel, nose, teeth and  when I compare myself to another woman thinking I am ‘better’ or ‘less than’ her.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself  to separate myself from other women through a constant stream of thoughts, I am often unaware of, and constant comparison,  “she’s pretty, she’s ugly, that is not a good look for her, she shouldn’t wear that, she’s trying too hard to impress, she thinks she’s so hot/better than me, she’s too fat/heavy, I’m prettier than her, I’m more desirable, I’m less attractive than her, Alex(any man I’m going out with) would like her more because she’s prettier than me”

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from myself by criticizing a part of my physical human body in separation of the whole, my whole self and in my mind comparing this body part to that of a picture of a model or other woman I feel is ‘better’.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge myself as plain/ ugly without makeup and pretty with make up, for  judging  myself as sexy with high heels and fashionable clothes, for judging myself as looking old with no make up or with reading glasses, for judging  myself as pretty with a tan, for judging  myself as ugly/plain with no tan, for  judging myself as ugly with regular glasses (I wear contact lenses), for  judging  myself everytime (almost ) I look in a mirror as looking ‘good’ or ‘bad’ that day, having  ‘bad’ hair ‘good’ hair ‘, and for judging my smile as ugly if it is not white ‘enough’.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define myself  according to a picture every time I look in the mirror, see my reflection in a window, get dressed, I see another woman who I judge as better/worse ‘looking’ than me, I am in the presence of others and I want to impress them and the picture is pretty or ugly, sexy or plain, fat or skinny, good enough=desirable or not good enough = undesirable, embarrassing or proud.

I forgive myself for allowing and accepting the belief that I am ‘inferior’ to a person I deem ‘beautiful’ because they have certain physical traits
I forgive myself for allowing and accepting that I am inferior to ‘beautiful people’
I forgive myself for allowing and accepting the belief/presupposition that beauty is real.
I forgive myself for allowing and accepting the belief/presupposition that there is such a thing that is ‘beautiful’ and something that is ‘less or not beautiful’
I forgive myself for allowing and accepting myself to grade other people according to their ‘beauty’
I forgive myself for allowing and accepting the separation between ‘beautiful’ and ‘ugly’ people.
I forgive myself for allowing and accepting the reaction of ‘feeling inferior’ when I identify a ‘beautiful person’
I forgive myself for allowing and accepting my attention to be placed on the idea of beauty more than the physical act of breathing
I forgive myself for allowing and accepting the belief that beauty exists
I forgive myself that I allowed myself to judge people according to my concept of beauty
I forgive myself that I allowed myself to judge myself according to my concept of beauty
I forgive myself that I allowed myself to act according to my concept of beauty
I forgive myself that I allowed myself to support my concept of beauty by applying it to people, objects, and surroundings
I forgive myself that I allowed myself to force myself to grade objects according to their beauty. All is one and equal
I forgive myself that I haven’t realized that beauty does not exist
I forgive myself for not allowing myself to consider that all things are one and equal in beauty, such that the ‘beauty system’ IS superfluous/redundant
I forgive myself for allowing and accepting the ‘thought comparison’ between me and another person’s ‘beauty’
I forgive myself for allowing and accepting myself to compare my physical form to another according to my definition of beauty
I forgive myself for allowing and accepting the identification of the belief that I am ‘superior’ or ‘inferior’ depending on which person I compare myself to
I forgive myself for allowing and accepting myself to compare me to someone else’s physical form. We are one and equal.
I forgive myself for not yet applying the principles of oneness and equality in the context of beauty
I forgive myself for allowing and accepting a definition of beauty
I forgive myself for reacting to the beauty construct within and as me
I forgive myself that I haven’t realized that by accepting a definition of beauty, I literally imprison myself to my ideas; that through my actions, I accept and allow my own enslavement to the beauty construct
I forgive myself for neglecting to breathe while in the denial of the beauty construct, which only empowers it further.
I forgive myself for reacting to the beauty construct by denying it
I forgive myself that I haven’t realized that to remove the beauty construct, I must and will cease participating within it, which includes asserting or denying its existence.
I forgive myself that I haven’t realized that I need to accept and consequently not react to the beauty construct to delete it.

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to exist within and as the beauty polarity system of ugly and good looking

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to become a slave to the beauty system
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted the beauty system to control and direct me
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to support and fuel the beauty system thru the use of skin care products

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to define myslef as disgusting according to the norms/standards of beauty

I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to isolate myself, stay at home, not showing myself amongst others when I feel disgusting and unattractive
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to experience shame because of the way I look
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to define myself as ugly because of my white/pale skin
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to define sunburnt and brown skin as beautiful
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to want to have sunburnt skin
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to become careless when in sharp sunlight and often burn my skin because I desire to be brown
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to define spotless, smooth, matt skin as beautiful and desirable
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to care what others may think about or how they value my appearance
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to define my body as ugly, disgusting and unattractive
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to define myself as ugly because I am not muscular compared to other men
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to define myself as ugly because I’m skinny
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that a male body should be muscular and well built
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to desire a well built and muscular body
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to become disgusted at the sight of my naked body
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to fear nakedness of myself
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to define my body as shapeless
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to define my body as curvy
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to define my body as sexy, and derive my self worth from this
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to feel better about myself when I look in the mirror and see that I look hot
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to experience shame for my body
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to fear to display my naked body
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to belive that nakedness is something wrong or dirty
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to fear showing myself without a shirt on in public
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to fear that others will judge my body as ugly
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to believe that others are laughing behind my back when they see my body
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to compare my body with others
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to wish that I had another body and in that I forgive myself that I have
acceptet and allowed myself to believe that my life would have been much better if I would have a body which I define as beautiful
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to hide as much of my body as possible with cloths because of my shame of my body
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to limit my body movement because of my shame of my appearance and my body
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to copy the beauty system of my father
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to copy my fathers addiction to compare and value and judge others because ot their looks
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to copy my fathers fear of nakedness
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to copy the beauty system of my mother
I forgive myself that I have allowed and accepted myself to copy my mothers disgust with unclean skin

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define myself according to an idea connected to a picture I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want to hide the parts of my body which I judge negativly I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want to hide because of the judgements of others I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to care about the judgement of others because I fear ridicule and judgement I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear my own feelings within the experience of ridicule and judgement of others

When and as I notice the reactions within me towards what another said about my physical appearance, I stop and breath and do not follow thoughts that pop up in my mind. I realize that my physical appearance does not define me. My body is supporting me to exist on planet earth, and I am grateful for it, and will do what I can to keep it healthy, and not place all kidns of judgements on it according to looks.

When and as I notice the urge to buy products to make me thin, make me thight, beautify me, make my skin less wrinkly etc… I stop and breath and do not allow myself to follow this urge.

I realize that age is a number and not who I am as life and that I am in fact one and equal to life. I realize that my physical human body is one and equal to life. I realize that the emotions of fear, anger, sadness, shame and denial are not who I am and I do not have to be directed by them. I realize that fear and the other emotions it brings up enslave me to the mind consciousness systems design of keeping me stuck and occupying my time and are in fact a waste of my time to engage in. I realize that what I am and who I am is constant and changeless but it will take time to understand the aging system and ‘turn back the clock’. I realize I can be patient with my process of discovery with Desteni. I realize these emotions keep me trapped in my mind and there is no ‘answer’ except to make the decision with each here moment, each breath to not participate in them.

I no longer accept and allow myself to be stuck in my mind by engaging in the emotions of fear, anger, sadness, shame and denial with regards to aging . I no longer accept and allow myself to participate in/waste any more time on the thought  that as I age, I become less ‘valuable’. I accept and allow myself to be here as life , one and equal to all that exist, in each breath and that  ‘value’ has no relevance. I accept and allow myself to let go of past thoughts/ideas/beliefs of beauty and that life has an expiry date. I accept and allow myself to no longer look at my refection and see someone who is aging and react with thoughts and emotions that control me and could cause me harm. I accept to no longer see myself as a picture but to accept myself as life. I accept and allow myself to no longer judge myself or others as ‘beautiful ‘ or ‘ugly’, as ‘old’ or ‘young’.

Whenever I go into an energetic reaction of fear brought on by the thought ‘I am afraid that, as I age, I become less valuable’    I stop, I breath.  I no longer accept and allow myself to go into my mind and trust /engage in emotions of fear, anger, shame, sadness, and denial to trap and enslave me. Instead I realize I direct myself here, in the physical, with each breath and I remind myself I am one and equal to all that exist in timelessness and not just a picture presentation.

Some parts inspired from: http://forum.desteni.org/viewtopic.php?f=9&t=285&p=956&hilit=beauty#p956

 
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Posted by on May 1, 2012 in Human Behavior

 

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