17% of the girls and about 12% of boys considers plastic surgery. This is the conclusion of an international youth study around “being unique”, from research bureau InSites Consulting.
About 91% of Belgian girls between age 15 and 25 would change something on their body if this could be done in an easy way. The numbers are also quite high with the boys (73%). Girls are the least satisfied about their stomach (43%), thighs”(33%) and breasts(22%). Boys want to improve their muscle mass (18%), stomach (17%) and penis (11%).
Not everyone considers plastic surgery for these issues. About 15% of all Belgian youngsters would. Belgian girls are most proud about their eyes (50%), hair (28%) and breasts (21%). Only 6 % is proud of their entire body. Double the amount of boys (13%) are proud about everything, but most on their eyes (40%), hair (17%) and penis (13%).
When we compare it to international statistics, we find that in comparison to 16 countries, our country is a little lower than the average. 23% of girls and 16% of boys in those 16 countries worldwide consider plastic surgery.
In China and India young woman give much less importance to their stomach and breasts. The attention goes to the skin, eyes and hair. In Brazil, girls focus less on their thoughts, but more on their breasts and stomach. Brazil jumps out of the statistics regarding plastic surgery, since almost half (47%) of young woman and 34% of young men would consider it.
The current generation of youngsters is often called the most narcissistic group ever , by scientists, says Joeri Van den Bergh, Gen Y expert of InSites Consulting and author of the book ‘Maak je merk cool’ (make your brand cool). In that sense, it is not surprising that looking good has become so important. It is not just an occurrence with youngsters, but is present in the whole of society. Think about the increased importance of product designs and wrappings, or the big attention to interior design.
57% of the Belgian Youngsters thinks themselves to be unique to very unique (which makes them not so unique after all;)). In Belgium the youngsters want to be different based on the thinks they tell others (42%), their clothing (37%) and their profession (36%). Also hobbies, the cities and countries they visited and the music they listen to are important ways for them to differentiate from others. Most of the youth does not want to be unique based on their political ideology.
4 in 10 Belgian youngsters want to be remembered most as “a good friend”. Other qualities likes: loyalty (31%), friendliness (27%) and honesty (21%) are also considered to be desirable qualities.
The research was conducted from 4065 respondents between 15 and 25 years (Generation Y) from 16 countries, some of those: United States, Brazil, China, Netherlands and Belgium.
I’m part of generation Y, and I must admit that for a long time I have had the same mindset. I was unsatisfied with so many things about myself. I wanted to change my hair, change my breasts, change my skin, change my feet etc… there was always something that needed to be changed. Everywhere you see media advertisements, on Tv, in the streets, even in movies. You see beautiful actors and singers, you see them get praised. On tv they tell you how to get the “perfect” hair, the “perfect skin”, stomach, ass… It is an ideal unable to be reached. You can never ever eeeveerrrr have skin without pores. Ok. Photoshop is digital. Sure you can plug up your pores with make up, make your skin seem perfect. But is that worth suffocating your skin, putting on a mask to be ‘accepted’? Accepted by who, and why would you even want to obey to someone who only accepts you when your fake and superficial an in anxiety of being rejected by others? Does not sound like the best friend to me…
Demand equals supply in our current system. And when the population can be hooked on something, it is often used and abused to make profit from it. Like what is happening with the way we look. Some play in on it, it sells, and then more and more starts to come. And people buy it, and hope it will make them “better”, “happier”. It becomes a vicious cycle which we cannot blame the corporations for. It is all of us, contributing to it. Whenever you are gossiping infront of your child about who is pretty, or who is ugly, how ridiculous this or that person is dressed etc… you are setting an example for them. An example not worth following.
Alongside the cultural commentaries which proliferate on the subject of the technological contributions to youth self-absorption come a series of other concerns, such as Harvard Psychiatrist Dr. John Ratey’s contention that the modern obsession with technology may be physically rewiring youth brains into patterns consistent with what he calls “acquired attention deficit disorder.” Dr. Elias Aboujaoude, director of Stanford University’s Impulse Control Disorders Clinic at Stanford University, agrees. In a Nov 15 interview reported in the San Francisco Chronicle, Dr. Aboujaoude comments, “The more we become used to just sound bites and tweets, the less patient we will be with more complex, more meaningful information. And I do think we might lose the ability to analyze things with any depth and nuance. Like any skill, if you don’t use it, you lose it.”
So there is another danger lurking for generation Y, a short attention span. I don’t know if this is a new item, but I can actually attest to this. I myself, have a short attention span, so I have to force myself to do certain things. I have to force myself to research, to write my school papers, to study, to investigate about our system etc… So I know very well, that “short attention span” is no excuse. We have to consider what Is necessary to do currently, and for me this is working towards the common good and standing for a new system that does what is best for all to our best ability. This includes self direction, thus: not being a slave to a programmed short attention span. And actually, once you start to push yourself, the whole attention span issue fades and you start to enjoy giving more attention and research to certain subjects. All it requires is your push.
the “use it or lose it” paradigm to which Dr. Aboujaoude refers. We will discover that human beings and brains are much more plastic than we thought. When our individual and collective success demands that we concentrate on something for longer than 4 seconds, our youth will be the first to lead us out of the tweeting age and into the next age – whatever it may be.
So let’s step up, and not be blind consumers who just go about their day seeking for the next fulfillment. If you are really feeling that empty, that you constantly have to look for attention and entertainment, then that shows you there is something wrong. Not only within society, but within ourselves, which is shaped by society.
Why desire to be special? Why even think about this in the first place? That there is even a need to start thinking about whether one is special, is showing us something.
Co-author to Jean Twenge, W Keith Campbell of the University of Georgia, states that narcissism can be beneficial when meeting new people or are auditioning for “American Idol” Campbell goes on to say that narcissism can prove to have a negative effect when it comes to close relationships, causing a breakdown.
Those that are narcissistic are the ones that will more than likely have short-lived romantic relationships, cheat on their significant others, and lack in genuine emotional warmth. They will probably display dishonesty, violent behavior, and tend to be controlling. In addition, narcissists will also lack empathy, react negatively to criticism, while considering their own needs and desires before others.
Yeah, auditioning for Americal Idol is so much more important than deep honest relationships with others ofcourse… Considering the praise idols receive.
If we do not stop, we are marking our future to become very unpleasant, which it already is for many people around the world. The more selfish we become, the less caring, the more we will ignore the abuse in this world, only work for our own gain and treat others as less than how we wish to be treated ourselves. This not only has effect on our own well being and that of others, but also on animal abuse and our environment. Because often people will not even take the time to investigate what happens to animals in slaughter houses, shutting off their mind because it makes them feel bad to realize the truth. Or buying products from companies or even becoming producers of products damaging our environment, merely for profit (personal gain!). We must realize the impact of our current creation, of what children and thus adults we are bringing into this world. A system divided, will not bring benefit to the whole.
We require a re-orientation towards a society that is best for all, and works on the common good. Where we do not give our children the superficial consumerist messages we give them today, and do not give them the example of judgmental behavior. This is very possible, because there are cultures in this world who already focus on this, and where young people show respect for life, help others and do their best to contribute. But this has to expand globally. So a free market, does not contribute to the common good. It gives the ability to producers to exploit, feed selfish desires, and profit simply “because there is a demand”.
Demand does not equal production. That, is warped thinking, and destructive instead of constructive.
Entertainment in the Equal money system
In an Equal Money System, in a world where everyone’s basic living needs are always taken care of, and where everyone is provided with the amenities essential to a comfortable lifestyle, where we are all equal in quality of life, obviously the whole point of profit making and success is removed. Can entertainment exist in a world without business? Will there still be actors and musicians who want to act and make music if financial success is no longer a motivator? Of course! Because, when you remove profit and survival as a motivator, you don’t remove the human capacity for self-expression, you don’t remove the human capacity to work together as a team to produce a movie, an album, a television show. And you don’t remove the human’s capacity to produce the technology that allows us to enjoy entertainment.
In an Equal Money System, producing entertainment becomes something we choose to do because we like doing it, because it is self-expression. We like to write a story, we like to act, we like to engineer sound, we like to work with cameras and lighting, we like to work with computers and editing, we like to sing, we like to record music, we like to design televisions, we like to work with electricity, we like to program games. With the removal of the need to make profit, comes the end of entertainment as a ‘consumer product’. Entertainment will no longer be about ‘consuming a product’, it will be about enjoying a product – the product of those passionate about producing something for us to enjoy.
The infrastructure for a comprehensive entertainment system for humanity to enjoy already exists. In an Equal Money System access to the technology and resources involved in, for example making a movie, are no longer controlled to make profit, because there is no need to make profit. Thus, we are freed up to use our resources, use our infrastructure, to produce and deliver the highest quality projects possible, without budget as a limitation. The considerations involved in producing entertainment will be practical ones, where one will have work out the logistics of a project to see what is required in terms of energy, equipment, manpower, distribution, and our ability to create something will depend on who wants to get involved in the project. A team that wants to make a movie will have to fulfill the roles of writers, directors, actors, equipment operation and maintenance, editors, designers, engineers, etc. Within entertainment, the role of every person involved in producing something will be a role that someone is willing to fulfill. With an Equal Money System the need to survive through finding a way to make money no longer exists, so every single job required to be done to make a movie, or a game, or record an album, will be a job that a person chooses to do because they want to.
And who will have access to entertainment? Everyone will! Televisions, computers, movies, music — all of these things have become an ingrained part of our human experience. Everyone will have access to the highest quality televisions, the highest quality computers, the highest quality musical equipment. We will have the freedom to apply ourselves in designing the most effective technology and equipment for humanity to use, because we will no longer be limited by the need to make a profit. In an Equal Money System we are free to express ourselves, free to entertain ourselves to our fullest potential for excellence.
Aspects of entertainment that will no longer be feasible, will be anything that involves unnecessary wasting of resources, and anything that brings harm to any human, animal, or part of nature
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge my physical body as ugly/imperfect/not good enough, because in my life I have learned that you are judged on the way you look, and I have taken in that judgement and placed it upon myself.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to copy the behavior of that around me, even though I realize it is not good for me or for anyone else
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge my physical body because others judge it
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge others physical body
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to desire approval, and going as far as modifying my human body to get the approval
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to depend my self worth and self confidence on the way I look, and thus on the image in the mirror, on what others think about me and how they judge me
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to mutilate my body because of the judgements in my mind
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to give superficial people power over me
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to let superficial people decide whether I am good enough or not
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to let superficial people determin what I do to my body, and when I am pretty or when I am not
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge myself as pretty or ugly
I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realiza that it does not matter what another judges about my body, and that those who judge me according to the way I look are not worth to spend time with, and are no true friends or beings that care about me. If they only care about me when I look a certain way, then this care is conditional
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to adopt the beauty standards my culture has placed upon me, and carry it on and even pass it on to the next generations by living by it
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that my body is fine the way it is, and that I should honor it, as who I am, giving me the ability to live and enjoy this planet
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to take my body for granted
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not direct myself in self honesty, by stopping the judgements within my mind
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to desire to be special, more so than others
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to desire to be better than others
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to allow my ego to control me
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to go into competition with others of my gender
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize how competition and ego creates a world of abuse, where losers are punished and “winners” are praised – while the winners are often beings that do not do what is best for all, may be selfish, egoistical, and non-caring. But the system doesnt give about that, all that matters is who wins.
I commit myself to stop a system that places superficial beauty messages within society, which children see and adopt, and which people internalize. This creates a judgemental world which is not best for all, where it is all about looks and status, all fueled by money, the desire for profit.
When and as I notice negative thoughts about my body come up, I stop and breath and realize my body is fine the way it is, and I support it in its health the best way I can. I do not allow myself to go through plastic surgery simply so others could like the way I look more. I stop the judgements towards myself.
I commit myself to stop this system of exploitation that sends our children the wrong messages, teaches them to judge, and become superficial beings that only look for their own gain and happyness, and close their eyes and ears towards what is actually going on in this world.
I commit myself to stop this system which trains children to be slaves, and not think for themselves. I stand for a new system, where all can live as equals, and where none is judged for how they look, and therefor placed above another or given more chances.